As I sit here eating some “Beer Nuts” that we purchased from BevMo, I’ve been thinking a lot about the conversation that has been brought up again by the recent news story about Yahoo hiring 37 year old Merissa Mayer (formerly with Google) to run the show. This alone was making headlines because…prepare yourself…she’s a WOMAN!!! To add fuel to the fire she announced she is also 6 months pregnant (so is my wife). What in the hell is this crazy woman thinking? What are any of the pregnant women thinking???
Why Can’t Pregnant Women Have a Career?
Well, I don’t know what she’s thinking but I can tell you what I’m thinking, you ready?
Who gives a flying saucer what she does? Why do we second guess everything all the time? She’s a big girl, let her fail or succeed as she sees fit. This is her life, her book to write the chapters of; if she fails it is her failure to get over and if she succeeds she can give the bird to all the critics mocking this decision by Yahoo. Not all women could do what she is doing, just as not everyone could invent electricity. Will the next three months…six months…be difficult for her? Yes, of course. But does that mean she will fail? No.
I think of our own situation, Annie and I are expecting a baby in October and she works in a male dominated field. She’s been a professional (meaning a real suit and tie type of job) since before I met her and she has balanced her life amazingly well. What will she do when the baby is born? Aside from the maternity leave that she will take, her plan is to work as she can from home during the maternity leave and then go back to work. We’ve been working toward the goal of having me be able to work from home in order to care for Little Browne. I can run most of my painting company around these duties and schedule things based on Annie’s availability. I also have an online business that can be done from home as well.
The point is, why do we (society) saddle people with our own fears, doubts, boundaries, and limits? Whether it’s Marissa Mayer or Annie Browne, they are choosing their life path; it is not our responsibility to add hurdles on that path. How amazing would it be if we could be supportive and encouraging of such decisions rather than be defeating of such goals? Annie and I (and from what it sounds like Marissa Mayer and her husband) are making decisions for ourselves that we believe will be most beneficial for the three of us, so if you have something negative to say about the goals we have, the things we choose, or the way in which we do things…stick it up your tailpipe.
We may fail, we may succeed…but it’s OUR failure or success, let us have that.
The overall point to this post is, why do we still have issue with women in business and why would we ever question a woman’s ability to perform her duties because she is pregnant? I understand pregnancy can lead to issues and that it can keep you busy, but if some women choose to go that route, let them. I know this won’t change, because at the end of the day men are assholes and women are catty…but at least I got this off my chest!! And to Annie and Marissa…YOU GO GIRLS!!