As any parent knows, the amount of “firsts” when you have a baby is insane. Every single thing is a first…first smile, first tooth, first time crawling, first time walking, and hundreds of other things. We’ve been living through many firsts with our little Sammy and right before Christmas 2012 we had a couple of interesting ones.
These two firsts happened all in the same night. The first one was that Annie and I had a “date night” away from the baby for the FIRST time. A good friend of ours and her daughter came over to relieve us and give us a couple of hours away so we could collect our sanity, have some “us time”, and take a deep breath. At first I thought it would be difficult for me to leave him but it was not anywhere near as bad as I thought. Part of that was due to how much we trust our friends with Sammy and part of it was my understanding of how important it is for Annie and I to have alone time away from the little man.
One of the things we often discussed prior to getting pregnant and through the pregnancy was how crucial it was for Annie and I to be together, solid, on the same page, and focused on each other. It is our opinion that if either one of us made Sammy a priority over the relationship or marriage, then he would be doomed to grow up in a broken family. This is something we want to avoid at all costs. The funniest thing about that first date night though, was that we ended up spending the whole two hours we were gone talking about him and showing pictures of him. I must admit though, we went to a place where we know many of the people and they were asking about him too…so it wasn’t totally our fault!
The second FIRST we had that night was Sammy’s first time not sleeping in the little pack and play crib by our bed…we moved him down the hall to his own room and into his real crib. Other than feeling slightly sad we didn’t seem to have any major issue with this change. I’m not really sure what the sadness I felt was from…possibly due to feeling that even though he is only two and a half months old it seems the journey is going by too fast. Who knows, the adventure of parenthood is certainly different for everyone and there is no one right way to feel or to do things.
Much of what Annie and I have done thus far has been due to instinct, listening to our pediatrician, and online research. We’ve done things as we have felt comfortable not when someone else says they did something with their baby. I think that’s my biggest take away so far from this parenthood thing; rather than cast negativity and doubt, let’s support parents and build a community that we can all learn from and receive support from. This job is very difficult, hard, and tedious at times but it is almost the most rewarding thing I know of in 36 years on this planet.
So, that’s our story of some firsts…what are yours?