Did I make you grimace a bit? Those three words instantly set off certain emotions. From my perspective they are three subjects that people become very passionate about and often get overheated about. We all know what happens in a room of people when you start talking politics and religion…but have you noticed it’s kind of the same thing with the subject of parenting?
Since we first got pregnant…the one which resulted in a miscarriage…I have been somewhat amazed to find out just how obnoxious some people can be. Some people thought I was wrong for announcing we were pregnant before we hit the three month mark. I also know some people didn’t like that I announced it via my blog. Some folks think it’s dumb that we moved into a house where the entire living part of the house is upstairs…only the garage and entry way are downstairs. Some people think it’s stupid that my wife had sips of wine here and there during pregnancy. I could go on but you get the idea.
My initial response is always slightly agitated and involves several curse words but I thought I’d approach it differently this time.
What’s the point to all the criticism?
At the end of the day, my wife and I are responsible for any good or bad in our life and we need to be accountable for it. If I decide to wear pink shorts, dab a drop of wine on my sons lip, buy this house, vote for that guy, or send my kid to military school…it’s on me. It’s not on you. You know what…I’m guilty too. I criticize people and situations but I’ve done relatively well at doing it away from that person or situation.
Annie and I have talked a lot about the negativity and we really want to keep it under control. It’s hard enough to go through this life without being run down or second guessed…I don’t want to add to it. It goes back to that saying that alludes to thinking about what you have to say before you say it. Some things just were not meant to leave your mouth!
What was the one thing that ticked you off the most when you were pregnant or raising YOUR child?