I don’t think there is anything better that you could give someone than acceptance. The gift of accepting people for who they are not only loosens the tie of expectation (which is crap, your expectations of another are not fair) but it removes the stress from the situation. The key here though, is to remember that you do not need to like everybody or be best friends with everyone…but each of us deserves the gift of acceptance.
What comes to my mind is something as simple as the fact that we each fold our socks differently (I don’t even fold mine), but is one of us better or worse than another? No, we’re just different. WE each drink our coffee differently, and some people don’t even drink coffee…how dare they!! No, it’s cool, some people prefer tea but I will not judge them for that. So why judge someone for the political party they support? Chances are most people’s political views have come from their family…but to disregard someone because they don’t support a political idea that you do is astonishingly stupid.
I posted this on Facebook the other day, “Random thought: enjoying people for what they do bring to the table is better than talking crap because they don’t live up to some expectation you have of them”, which is what brought about this blog post…and the reaction was good, so good to know others feel the same way.
Just as a reminder, I am not a tree hugging liberal, but if you are, I’m ok with that. I am someone that believes that in order to live a fulfilled life, one giant aspect of that is the ability to have deeper relationships, enjoying people and learning from people of all backgrounds. Regardless of any belief, relationships with people are the single most important thing to any and all individuals during their journey here. Plus, it’s just damn fun getting to know people that are different than you…it goes back to pushing those limits and boundaries in life.
There’s a group of us that get together at a local coffee shop on Sundays (Annie and I are new to the get together but know everyone in it) that we call “church”…these guys (and they are mostly guys) range from an Aussie, a German, a guy from Turkey (I think), a winemaker/ winery owner, an Ag guy, an artist, one of the best bartenders we know, and us…wacky ass group of people (us included) but I look forward to this day, awesome people with amazing stories!
Differences should be celebrated and encouraged, not hidden and withheld. What I ask of you, is what I expect from myself, dig deeper…listen, understand, appreciate, and accept…your life will become so much richer I guarantee you!!