This post is Matt’s viewpoint on the procedure that Annie wrote about yesterday.
I wrote this on 10-2-12, immediately following the procedure. I put in “BLEEPS” where I had originally used profanity, thought it best to clean it up a bit.
Today we came in to the hospital to have the doctor try and turn the baby because he is breech, head up and butt down versus butt up and head down. The experience went fantastic until the doctor, who was simply living up to her current reputation, was an hour late…I understand emergency surgery and this and that but what about communication? Why not have the staff keep us informed as to what’s happening rather than leave us stranded in a hospital room waiting for an hour??
The lack of P.R. and marketing in the medical world is absolutely “cussword” baffling to me. From the executives at the hospital to the doctors to the staff, things need to change. If you cannot avoid being late, communicate with the patients…do something…especially for those people in the hospital for what could be stressful situations.
My second issue was the procedure that Annie and my unborn son had to endure. The actual physical attempt to move the baby from the outside, not the inside as in through the vagina, this is all done from the outside. From my perspective, I will sum up what I witnessed with this…HOLY BLEEP BLEEP BLEEP BLEEP BLEEP BLEEP BLEEP!
As you may guess this description is not good…that is all bad…plus some. Maybe I’m writing this too soon after experiencing this as the husband, but it strikes me as cruel and unusual…that’s really all I can say other than I am not happy that Annie or my unborn son had to experience that.
The procedure was supposed to take place at 12:45 and actually took place at about 1:55 or so due to the doctor being late. The doctor had also told us to get to the hospital an hour and a half early, so we got here at 11:15. Now it’s 3:41 and we’re waiting on blood work. Again, I go back to communication…if people would let us know how painful or how long things like this would take our minds could possibly be better prepared. I don’t understand the lack of discussion. Today…I am pissed off. Pissed off at humanity for not treating people with more concern and pissed off at this system that seems inefficient in the human way as well as builds stress and worry versus attempting to calm it.
It physically hurt me to see this procedure done to my wife. I understand that the doctor knows what she is doing and that this procedure can work sometimes…but from me to all you men out there that may experience this…it was rough. Maybe it’s because I am over protective. Maybe it’s because I am over sensitive. Maybe it’s because I’m a wuss when it comes to anything medical. Regardless…be prepared. If you love your wife as much as I love mine and hate to see the ones you love in pain…this will hurt you to the core. If the procedure needs to be done, don’t watch.
As strange as it sounds, there are times when I feel sympathy pain…it sucks. It was strange looking in Annie’s eyes and seeing that kind of pain or anguish and not being able to end it. I hate feeling helpless. Am I wrong to feel this way? Am I over reacting? Is the doctor right or wrong to advise this procedure?