Today, August 1, 2013 is our five year wedding anniversary. I donâ??t really look at these milestones as hugely momentous, but to some they are. Despite that, I love being married and love thinking back to the day we got married on the beach in Pismoâ?¦it was a pretty epic day of wine, food, partying, good times with a small wedding party, music, and starting our married life together barefoot in the sand.
Looking back over the past five years itâ??s hard to take it all in. Our life together has been filled with some travel, wine events, friends, family, food, music, and laughterâ?¦all culminating in what is our grand adventure together. I guess it would be safe to say that our wedding celebration was a good representation of how we live our lives!
We have a sign hanging in our house that says, â??Happiness is being married to your best friendâ?. Corny? Yes. True? Yes.
Regardless of the crappy times that weâ??ve had, (mostly caused by me and the depression I deal with at times) we always manage to come back to the middle. My personal philosophy on making a marriage work is remembering to communicate openly and often, laugh as much as possible at yourselves and each other, and remember that nothing is more important than being each otherâ??s best friend.
There truly is no other person Iâ??d rather hang out with, watch a movie with, raise a kid with, go wine tasting with, travel with, and annoyâ?¦than Annie. Is that sweet? Is that corny? Noâ?¦itâ??s just my life. Itâ??s my journey through this magical and sometimes brutally painful world.
I am where Iâ??m supposed to be.
I donâ??t always do it right but I show up every morning to try. We live in a time where people give up too easilyâ?¦I know, Iâ??m guilty of that too. Thereâ??s also a lack of looking inward and being aware of your flaws and being willing to address them. My life is worth working on those flaws. Annie is worth it. Being arrogant or ignorant enough to think that your shit donâ??t stink is simply asking online casino us slot invaders moolah for troubleâ?¦look in the mirror, realize that youâ??re a work in progress and keep trying. Cut yourself some slack and more importantly cut your spouse some slack (Annie, I’m still working on this one).
Five years after saying â??I doâ? on a beach in Pismo we have a 9.5 month old son. We own a home. Iâ??m biased but we have the best friends on the planet. Weâ??ve built an amazing community of people online and off line with Little Browne and Hoot n Annie. We still spend practically every minute together so long as weâ??re not at work. We talk endlessly and laugh often. We dream. And we plan more adventures.
I am where Iâ??m supposed to be.
This life is good if you can see past the crap and realize that it is that very crap that is here to test how badly you want this. If you fall short and get absorbed in all the negativity and drama you will miss the bus. Keep moving. Keep focused and positive. When times get tough or you screw up and let the negativity in, get back on the horse and move forward. Donâ??t dwell. Donâ??t stress. Whatever will be will beâ?¦adjust, overcome, adaptâ?¦move on.
Thereâ??s no manual. Itâ??s you and your partner rolling through this life trying to make today better than yesterday. Sometimes youâ??ll fail but sometimes you wonâ??t. Weâ??re all playing this same game. Having a badass community of friends and family around you really, really, really helps. Itâ??s good to have people in your life that push you and inspire you.
Annie and I are better as a couple because of all of you and in return we hope youâ??re better because of us. Thatâ??s the game, right? Relationships arenâ??t easy but you can certainly give yourself a solid foundation by doing some of these things I said above.
One last timeâ?¦I am where Iâ??m supposed to beâ?¦thanks to all of you for your continued support and friendship, and to Annieâ?¦Happy 5 Years!! Itâ??s been chaotic and crazy as well as fun and unimaginable. Itâ??s our storyâ?¦everyday a new page in that story. Cheers to the next chapter!!