I have recently been holding on to some “hurt feelings” over a friendship that once was super tight but has since dwindled considerably. My frustrations were directed toward him but then I realized maybe it wasn’t his fault, it was possibly mine. I also remembered that many things in life do not last forever, and they don’t have to.
There are a crap load of things that are moments, drops in the bucket; in which serve a purpose and then disappear. I think this scares us as humans but if we slow down and spend more time thinking about how we are filling those moments versus what has come and gone, we might be better off.
I guess the moral of the story (for me) is, as long as we didn’t do something negative to one another, there should be no hurt feelings. Enjoy the moments for what they were and when they were instead of harboring negative feelings because things haven’t remained the same.
I agree, Matt. I’ve gained and lost friends over my 44 years on this earth. I think back upon the ones I’ve lost. Was it my fault? Was it theirs? Or did life just get in the way? Sometimes our paths just don’t cross anymore, for whatever reason, and new friends take their place. I think it’s ok and natural and what life is all about.
Our new friendship in 2010 has enriched my days, and I look forward to getting to know you and Annie more, as we explore wine, life and business in the new year.
God bless, and Happy New Year!
Great points Sandra, and it really doesn’t need to be a sad or frustrating thing. Thanks for the comment and you have been awesome for Annie and I and we love having you as a new friend and look forward to sipping wine together in real life, how awesome would that be.
Cheers and a very Happy New Year for you and your family!!
Mo Prunk says
We are all transitional vehicles meant to eb and flow through life. People come and go in
our lives, as we do theirs for a very specific prupose, not always meant to be understood. It’s
what helps us grow and learn and move through life, sometimes with great discomfort, sometimes with grand pleasure. The old saying, ‘No pain No gain’ doesn’t come without a ‘price’.
As a healing arts practitioner for over 20 years, I am all to familiar with the ‘rules of engagement’ and the life lessons that I hope to never stop learning. One closed door always leaves an opportunity for another to open, and my friendship with you an Annie has allowed many doors to ‘open’ for me, even though our relationship is primarily over the internet! It’s all about how we see ourselves, and value our own lives and relationships with people that propells us through life.
As you always say Matt, “It’s ALL GOOD!!”
May 2011 be a fantastic year for you and the ones you love! Let life be an adventure…
Live fully, Laugh often, Love unconditionally, and never stop learning!
Awesome comments Mo, you are so right!! I/ we appreciate your friendship a ton, whether internet or in real life, it’s all good. Thank you and we wish you guys nothing but the best in 2011…look forward to more wine time with you!! Cheers!!!!