My wife and I recently had a great conversation about negativity; specifically we discussed thinking negatively versus verbalizing that negativity. I will preface this with the fact that I do think venting (letting good and bad thoughts out) is a must do, otherwise you tend to get all bottled up with different emotions which, in my opinion, can be unhealthy.
We all have negative thoughts, even the happiest amongst us have them and it’s completely normal. We are inundated with messages all day that lead us to have thoughts without us even having to engage with it. Anything from a smell, to overhearing what someone says, to watching something someone does, to what somebody wears, and so on can all lead to the automatic creation of a thought.
Here’s the idea, when we take something like a negative thought, and turn it in to more of an actual thing by attaching words to it and verbally putting that message out in the world…does it give that negativity wings? I say yes, it spreads that message and gives it a breeding ground. So there has to be a point where you say enough is enough and don’t allow yourself to encourage, promote, or perpetuate the spread of negativity.
As much as we can each be sucked in to it, karma’s a bitch…it will come back on you, one way or another! On top of that, it just doesn’t feel good to be so damn negative all the time! So our goal is to stop it at the thought and not continue it to words. Easier said than done, but I think it’s something worth trying to stop, for our own sake.
This all goes back to previous posts and conversations about being a person that builds people up instead of tear them down. Any of my time spent with negative thoughts or words about others is simply a waste of MY life. Time is better spent creating, building, and enjoying! Try it, you might just smile more.