After hearing about the suicide of an online acquaintance, I am reminded of conversations my wife and I have often…along with thoughts I have had.
This life is short, precious, full of ups and downs…but more importantly, in this life, every single one of us has the power, the ability, and the gift of impacting another human being. There are two things we spend too much time on instead of building true relationships. One is negativity, and the second is our selves. We’d rather talk poorly about people that are “different” than we are and we definitely would rather talk about “ME” than focus on someone else.
It’s sad to me…but trust me, I don’t think everyone can be saved…and I certainly don’t think everyone needs to be saved. I’m also not much of a fan of intruding on “life” and the natural progression of things…but I do know this; if each of us spent more time trying to build real, true, solid relationships with people…this world would be a better place.
The above mentioned acquaintance had it all…international travel, loved his work, married with children…or, at least on the outside it seemed he had it all. What was going on inside? Did he suffer from depression? Was he going through so much “stuff” that he just couldn’t carry the load anymore?
I’m going to be honest for a minute, well, I’m always honest…but this is where people start getting uncomfortable. I have been in that boat…the feelings of being overwhelmed, depressed, and so on…I’ve had that thought of ending it all. I didn’t think I had a place, I didn’t think it mattered anymore. I’m happy to say that was ten plus years ago and my life is so drastically different now. More of us have had those feelings than not. People feel ashamed and embarrassed to admit things like this…which is why there is still such a stigma attached to all of this; and many don’t want to burden others with these thoughts.
It goes back to what I mentioned above and in other posts…we are here on this journey, right now, together…T-O-G-E-T-H-E-R…start acting like it. The only thing that matters at all when you are on your death bed is human relationships and the lives you’ve encountered along this path.
So, instead of talking crap about your friends or anyone else, lend a hand. Rather than tear down, help build. These are choices we each make individually, to be positive and helpful…or negative and harmful. Your words can make a monumental difference, or no difference at all…but it’s worth the effort. Cultivate your relationships; be a real friend, don’t just play the part. There is, without question, enough negativity in the world…we DO NOT need to add to it.
- The Power In Moments (matthewliberty.com)