Do you ever go through those times where you feel like you don’t have time to catch your breath? I’m sure you do, seems fairly common nowadays. I’ve been feeling that way lately because I’m trying to split my time between two careers that are quite different and demand a lot of my time. So I am writing this to remind myself (and hopefully others find this useful) that all I can do IS all I can do.
If you’ve seen our wine blog (www.hootnannieblog.com), or followed some of my writings on this blog, you know that it has been my goal to downsize and find my ideal life. It’s been working great, but this last couple weeks has been so busy that I feel that fog again.
Luckily, I can typically catch myself before I get to deep into that fog…if I don’t, the fog consumes me and things just get ugly. I like that I can monitor myself most of the time, but I must say it has gotten far easier to do so. As I’ve become committed to living MY life and living a life that is one of fulfillment…I am motivated to stay “on task”.
So, when I started noticing that my mood was sub-par the other day, I stepped back and realized that I was allowing other peoples deadlines and anxiety get to me…of course I did, I want to please people, I want people to be content; and I will usually do whatever I can to make that happen even if it means I suffer. I am here to say NO to these people today and live a life that is stress free, negativity free, and clutter free.
Whether it is for my business or for me, this is how I operate. There are no deadlines that are worth killing yourself over. There are no deadlines worth having a bad day over. We need to remember that not everybody is reading the same chapter from the same book…so if they expect me to “jump” when they say jump I can’t be angry with them, but I can let them know that I don’t live that way. My life, my marriage, my short time on this Earth, my friends, my sanity, and giving back to my communities are far more important than attempting to meet an unrealistic deadline.
I’m hoping this reminder worked…perspective and priorities. Will this deadline, or issue, or whatever…matter in one year, five years, or ten years? Probably not, but my level of happiness and the little moments I spend with my wife, family, or friends will matter. Don’t let the insignificant things in life rob you of the precious moments that we don’t get enough of anyways!
- A Life of Adventure (matthewliberty.com)
- Living With Your Deadlines (lifehack.org)
You said it all in your closing paragraph! Cheers back to you my friend.
Thank you Cheri…I still find it funny how we let these insignificant things “ruin” our moments/ days, etc. Have a good one and thanks again!!
Sherree Worrell says
Thank you Matt for this great reminder. I’m still learning! I agree with Cheri, your last paragraph really does say it all.
Cheers to you my friend,
What a great reminder to all of us. Sounds like you’re doing a better job heeding the reminder than many of us (present company included).
Thanks for the reminder – perfect timing!
Sherree…thank you very much…it served as a reminder to myself as well…glad you enjoyed it. Wish I had more time to write…so much in my brain, so little time to spew it on to this blog…lol!!
Hey Joe…lol…we’re all good at something…and one of the things I am able to do is kind of step out of myself and watch, that ability helps to see things objectively and allows me to RE-focus when needed. Thanks for the comment brother!!
Hello there Xochitl, how ya been? You don’t need to answer on here, shoot me a Facebook message if you want. Glad the timing was right for you!! Hope things are working out!! Cheers!!